Clarence Returns
When Haylee died nearly four years ago, I named my grief Clarence. My mother taught me to do that so I could call my grief out by name and let it visit when it needs to. Today, as I was driving home from work, Clarence decided to visit.
I thought I knew what the triggers were to my grief: black Ford Focus, white Pontiac Vibe, Shar-pei's and other things that remind me of Haylee or how she died. (I can't allow people Today, Clarence just decided to show up. So I let the tears flow as I drove down the Anthony Wayne trail. Fortunately today's tears were not of the wailing type. The sobbing grief that was so often in the beginning have subsided.
Grief is a mysterious thing. It's different for whom I grieve. I miss my sister Barb, who has been gone for 20 years. I wish I could talk to my mom sometimes and she will be gone ten years this summer. But the loss of Haylee, my child has left such a hole in my heart. I sometimes wonder if it will ever be whole again.
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